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Are you a daydreamer? Do you fantasize about certain things when you are sad or upset or just want to escape?

I was never into SciFi or Fantasy stuff, never read comics, or watched fantastical movies. I did play video games in middle school and really did enjoy them, but again, I was always into puzzle games or war games with tasks and challenges, never role playing. I’ve dated several guys that were really into SciFi, Fantasy, role playing games, comics, etc. and we would often talk about why they (and others) were interested in these things. What is the draw? It would always come back to the fact that they were an escape. Of course, they are fun and entertaining, but I’ve been told by several gamers, avid Fantasy and SciFi fans, and many people that play role playing games that one of the main reasons they enjoy them is to escape from reality for a short time. I think every needs some type of escape; some people use exercise, sports, books, or games to do this, but I use movies and day dreaming!  As you’ve seen over the past month, I LOVE movies and one of the reasons I flock to romances and foreign films is because for a couple of hours I get to imagine my life differently and the same goes for daydreaming!

I didn’t start day dreaming until I was able to travel for the first time, when I was a junior in high school, but since then I have always dreamed about traveling or getting away whenever things become difficult, even momentarily. Within the past couple of years, since I’ve been burdened with student debt and haven’t been able to travel as much as I would like, I go back to my day dreams much more frequently.

I have a few specific daydreams that I return to time and time again…

A couple of the daydreams are quite similar and revolve around one premise…being in love with, and being loved in return by a man, while in Europe (on vacation or living). Usually, if I am in a romantic mood or lonely or dreaming about living overseas, I go back to a specific vision. It is either the dead of winter, with snow falling, or the height of summer with the windows wide open, in a top floor apartment, with hardwood floors, in an old building in a major city in Europe…usually Rome for the summer and Prague or Paris for the winter. We are in the apartment late at night and the radio is playing old, classic Blues, Jazz, and R&B and me and this man I’m in love with are dancing, drinking wine, smoking cigars and laughing. We’ve stocked up on food, and he’s cooked dinner for the both of us, we might take a break from dancing around the apartment to lay on the couch and read, or go down to the corner market for more wine.  Interestingly, it’s not a specific man-usually it’s just my crush at the time, a celebrity (I create some awesome fan-fiction in my imagination, haha), or a random man my mind has created. If it’s in the winter there is a fire crackling in the background and snow is pelting the windows. If it’s the summer, we’ve come back to the apartment after a day of walking around the city or working and the windows are wide open. We are in our underwear just being silly and dancing around with a breeze wafting through the apartment, sometimes going out to a small balcony to talk or watch passersby. I go back to this one time and time again because it is so simple. Just love, a dwelling, and music, but those are the things I want most! This is my most common daydream and even if I am not feeling especially romantic, I will have the daydream, except I will be single, but still with the wine, music, hardwood floors, and old apartment…

If I ever wrote a novel, this dream would definitely be the inspiration, but I’m not ready to give my fantasy away yet, so maybe one day when I don’t need my daydream anymore, I’ll write it out for the world to use…

The other one is very specific, but I think about it any time I am really sad or defeated. It motivates me and reminds me of some of the most happy times I’ve experienced so far. This dream is less of a fantasy for the future and more a replaying of the past with some added details. I am on a specific beach in Haleiwa, Hawaii. I don’t know the name of the beach, but I know where it is and I call it “turtle beach” because it’s where I used to go to swim with sea turtles as a little girl. But anyway, I am laying on this beach and I have a cooler full of Heinekens and spam musubi and the radio is playing Hawaiian music from the early 2000s and the sun is beating down and I’m just there-soaking it all up-eating, drinking, listening, tanning, snorkeling. Sometimes there is a good looking island man with me, but %90 of the time I am alone for this daydream…

I can’t tell you how many times these daydreams have motivated me to finish a paper or complete housework or all of the other mundane and tedious tasks my academic lifestyle requires. I have a few others that involve a combination of traveling, fashion, being in love, and music, but these two are my most consistent day dreams, and hopefully one day they will come true!

So, I may not play RPGs, lose myself in fantastical films, but I have other ways of escaping my reality, if ever things become difficult…

How do you escape reality? What is a fantasy or daydream you have about the future or the past? Is there a dream you constantly go back to to get you through hard times? Is there a time in the past that you remember fondly or that motivates you?