Thank you for following my blog! I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season. While I will continue to post my historical blogs over the next few months, I have a new series starting on December 6th, so come back and check it out! Have a wonderful day and feel free to ask questions or request content!
Hey! How has everyone been? It has been so long since I’ve written. I graduated in May, went to Key West with my parents, worked all summer, went to Martha’s Vineyard with the client I care for, moved out of my apartment in Mount Hope, relocated to a different part of the Bronx closer to my job, and now I am just trying to figure out where to go from here.
I’m starting to think about careers and try to figure out what I want to do. That’s a huge issue because I really wouldn’t mind having any job. Obviously, in dreamland, I’d be working for National Geographic, a TV network, some other media outlet that centers on travel/adventure, or an NGO, but as I’ve figured out, getting your foot in the door at any of those places at 27 years old with two MAs but no practical experience is a pipedream. SO, for now I am just scoping out different companies and getting my resume/CV and cover letters ready to apply.
I may be going on an international trip in December, but I’m not going to say where until all the details are ironed out. If it works out, I hope to do another series, like Italia in 40!
I would love to tell you I have some amazing plans for the fall and that I’ll be writing more often, but I really don’t know. I’ve been working 45-53 hours a week for two months, so I really don’t have any time to plan out cool blogs or go places to write about. I work, I eat, I sleep, I try to exercise, I have some beer/wine, I watch movies, and that’s about the extent of it. I don’t go to the movies or out to eat, so reviews are off the table.
For those of you that follow me on Facebook, you know that I work with a lady that has advanced dementia. In recent months the job has become increasingly more challenging, so when I get off work I usually just want to have some intelligent conversations, read, and sleep. I don’t have children so this job has been a big challenge for me recently because my client is completely dependent on me when I’m around, yet she is an adult so she is very resentful that she needs my help which often causes her to lash out at me. It is so, so difficult to be patient and caring when someone doesn’t want/like to receive your help but desperately needs it. It’s also hard to forget the unkind things she does and says and to pretend it never happened. In her mind it never happened because she forgets saying and doing things, so I have to act as though it didn’t happen too, even when it hurts my feelings. I obviously don’t take it personally because of her condition, but it doesn’t make it easier.
I have permission to write about my experiences with my client, but I really don’t feel right writing blog after blog about her condition since it’s my job. I will try to write more about my experiences in the coming months, but it’s pretty depressing so I don’t think it’s really suitable material. Do any of you have experience caring for a loved one with cognitive issues? What was your biggest challenge? How did you cope with the pressure?
I really do want to start a podcast or vlog, but when you work all the time it’s hard to come up with interesting things to talk about at length and then find the time to edit. I have some footage from my trips that I’d love to upload, so hopefully I will find time to edit it and post it soon.
Here are some pictures from my trip to Florida! I will write again next weekend!
It’s that time again, folks! LENT! I don’t have some long complicated thing to post this year, but I do have a reflection on something a friend posted on Facebook the other day. I have always thought of sacrifice as something you give up. Maybe it’s getting up early to exercise or not eating something you want or biting your tongue or giving away your money to a cause, but a friend posted last week that you can also sacrifice by adding a habit! Last year I added and stopped something at Lent, but I thought of it more as balancing out and trying to start a new habit, I didn’t realize that they were both sacrifices. So, this year I am going to add and remove some things.
I am going to add prayer/meditation and exercise.
I have seen a few 30 day exercise challenges and I am going to combine several and try to exercise at least half an hour a day. I am a little “soft” for my age and I could definitely be in better shape, so I am going to try to build some muscle and firm up.
I am also going to pray/meditate every day. I am super bad about praying regularly. It’s SO weird because I used to pray allll the time when I was young, but I really don’t anymore. I mean, I often talk to God throughout the day, but I don’t set aside time to meditate/pray without distractions. So, I’m going to do that.
As for giving up stuff, the past two years I’ve given up meat and Facebook and was successful both times.
This year I reallllly don’t know what I am going to give up. I mean, most of my bad habits have to do with not doing stuff (not going to bed early, not waking up early, not being sociable, etc.) so that’s why I’m adding two things. But all things considered, I think I am going to attempt to give up alcohol. Honestly, I don’t think I’m going to be able to not have any alcohol for 40 days because my job is very emotionally taxing and tests my patience (if you don’t remember, I take care of a lady with Alzheimer’s everyday while her husband is at work) and I don’t really have anything else to do as a stress release. I can’t afford a gym membership and the area I live in/weather right now isn’t hospitable for going out alone to exercise after work. Hopefully the meditation/prayer will be a good tool to help with tension and anxiety. I don’t drink every day, but my plan if I end up drinking with friends or slip up on my own is to compensate by giving up internet. If I drink one day, that will mean I cannot use internet for 24 hours and vise versa. The internet and wine are my two regular pleasures, so sacrificing one of those things everyday will definitely be difficult. This also means if I drink wine the only activities I can do will be exercise/reading/writing/watching DVDs. I use my phone as a security blanket/emotion buffer EVERYDAY, so having to give up the internet (switching to airplane mode) for a day will be huge for me.
Anyway, do you plan on giving anything up/adding anything to your routine over the next 40 days?
If so, good luck and tell me in the comments below!
So, as I’m sure you all know, the Powerball here in the US is up to 1.5 Billion dollars. I play the lottery and always have (I don’t play it every week or even every month-but I do play). I do know some people are against it and I completely understand why because I do think it preys on people’s hopes and dreams. But the way I look at it, if you aren’t spending food or rent money or taking money away from your kids or bills and just using disposable income to play (and you aren’t addicted to gambling or obsessive-obviously), then I don’t think there really is a problem. You’re just “buying a chance at a dream” as my grandpa used to say. Plus, in most states, lottery money does benefit some really worthwhile things!
SN: When I say always, I really mean always. When I was little I had a great uncle named Bob who would give me “scratch off money” every time he saw me. So, I’ve been playing the lottery in some form since I was 4 or 5!
Well, anyway, what would you do if you won 1.5 billion dollars (just under a billion cash after taxes)?
I was thinking a lot about it today after I bought my tickets. I’m a little superstitious so I always try to plan out the stuff I’d do with my winnings and somehow I think that increases my chances, hahaha!
If I won just under a billion dollars in cash, first things first, I would remain anonymous! I’d rent a car and drive to the claim center and claim my winnings. I’d call my mom and tell her to take a personal day and come here and I’d hire a tax attorney and broker.
I would put 10 percent into a charity account so that I could give money to whatever causes I wanted to.
Then I would put half of the remainder into an account/CD/IRA (whatever I could find that was the most safe and stable) with the highest interest rate I could find.
Of the half remaining, I would invest a quarter in the markets or other investment opportunities.
With the remaining ¾ of the remaining half, I would pay off my parents debts. Build/buy them a house (or two) wherever they wanted and hire whatever help they wanted. I would also set up interest earning accounts to pay for their care when they get older.
I would help other relatives and my few friends, but anonymously by depositing money into their accounts or mailing them checks under an alias.
I would pay off my student loans. Buy myself a car (not a luxury one, but a new one-maybe a Mazda or Fiat). I’d get out of my lease and buy an apartment closer to my job and furnish it…I thought a lot about it and I would definitely continue working. I was kinda happy when I thought about it because I know that means I really am happy with what I’m doing! I would find another person to fill in for me whenever I wanted to go on a trip.
I’d reapply to NYU for a couple of undergraduate programs: graphic design, web design, journalism, international studies, film, and acting.
I’d buy an apartment in Italy (probably Rome or Assisi), in Atlanta, a house wherever my parents chose to move, and an apartment in Honolulu. I’d build a tiny house (like those legit hippy, tiny houses) on my parents property in Alabama.
I would then plan an all expenses paid trip to the beach (probably Hawaii or Cuba) for everyone I love for a week and have a big party.
That would be it. What was left of the 3/4 after all of that would be added into the high interest account/IRA/CD and I would live off the interest and my wages. I would go on with my life afterwards. I would keep working and hopefully go to school for a few more degrees. Travel on the weekends. Eat at nice restaurants. Get my hair and nails done professionally more often.
I did realize I really would like someone to spend the money with. Normally I am pretty content being single. I get lonely, often, but I mean, I’m not devastated that I’m alone. I am thankful I have freedom. But as I was thinking about what I would do, I did hope I would meet someone to enjoy traveling with that I could trust and that was fun and nice to me.
As you can tell, I’ve thought about it A LOT, hahaha! Unfortunately, y’all will never know if I win, but if you played, GOOD LUCK! 🙂
So, what would you do if you won?! Would you remain anonymous?
Let’s hear it!
I am backkk!
I’m finally home in Tejas for Christmas and I am so, so excited and ready to relax and have some fun.
I have TV service, a microwave, central heat and air, my dogs, my parents, fruits, vegetables, meat, a dishwasher, a garbage disposal, I don’t smell urine, and it’s so quiet I can hear myself breathe. It’s like heaven on earth, haha!
I have all my cameras charging, got my Chromecast set up, unpacked. Everything is perfect.
I have some plans for my visit: going to get my hair done, having a KDrama marathon with friends, going down to Houston for my birthday, going to midnight Mass, eating some good food, going to go run, taking my dogs for walks, driving, geocaching, writing, filming, hanging out with my parents, soaking in the hot tub, getting my nails done…just regular stuff-most of which I don’t get to do up in New York. I hope I get to see some friends and go to the movies too.
Y’all, it SMELLS SO GOOD HERE. Like, so good.
My mom also stopped at Taco Bell on the way home from the airport (because it was the only thing open at 10 PM on a Monday night, don’t judge me) and we got 5 things for under $10! WHATTT? That’s why I spend so much money when I come down here. Everything is SO cheap, it’s insane.
I sound like I’m on vacation in some tropical paradise, but Texas is pretty rad.
Anyway, just a quick update. The next two weeks should be pretty fun so check back for more. I already know I’m going to be sad when I leave because I don’t know when I’ll be back.
Let’s do this thing, folks!